My husband and I went through the first 3 years of my career with an awful supervisor. He only cared about himself. Many days I went home crying because of how he treated me compared to other airmen. My husband saw this. He watched me go through one of the worst times of my life. So much so that I was close to not wanting to exist at all. I knew at that point that I would never be that kind of NCO. I would never treat an Airman like that. I would be the one to fight for my people. To make sure my people knew that they mattered as humans. So now here I am. Just stepping into the supervisory role as a brand new NCO. My Airmans wife is having a baby today. They have no family here to support them. First time parents. They asked me to be here with them. Jason's first response? Well what are you even going to do by being There? SUPPORT THEM! I think he has it so ingrained into his mindset that supervisors don't do these types of things that he doesn't see why I would need to be here. Why I would want to be here. How do I make him see that this is how things are truly supposed to be as an NCO. It's not just about me anymore. My airmen come before myself now. Not that myself and my family aren't important too but it's just different. I worry that he won't ever see this. I worry that he's always going to think that I am just trying to avoid him and my kids. I hate how he pouts when I'm leaving without him. I asked him if he was going to be crabby about it all day and he responds with well you will be gone all day and I will be stuck here with these two. Meaning OUR kids. We made it through a 5 day TDY. We made it through 6 week ALS BARELY. what if I get deployed for 6 months? What if I get sent to Korea or Turkey for a year? When will he learn to just go with the flow and stop taking things so personally? How can I fix this so I can stop stressing out and worrying about things I shouldn't have to?
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